I used to be twenty-three and in my ultimate yr within the college whereas Nana was twenty-six and unemployed. Our love story was birthed on Fb. It began with a easy “Hello” and a month later we had been smitten with one another. We had been so taken with one another’s personalities that we didn’t meet in individual earlier than we began courting…..CONTINUE READING

I lived in Sunyani whereas he lived in Accra however Nana was loopy about me. All the things he did and mentioned was proof of his love. I too was head over heels in love with him. Properly, I nonetheless am head over heels in love with him. We lived thus far aside however our love was the bride that made the space so brief. What I imply is, he visited me in Sunyani so usually that you’d suppose it was simply an hour’s drive.

They are saying no relationship is ideal however ours defied the chances. He made time to see me, and the communication was good. My solely downside with him was his unemployment. I perceive that it’s tough to get an honest job on this nation. Nonetheless, does it imply we should always not strive in any respect? As a result of Nana refused to strive. The one signal that he was searching for a job was when he would use his mouth to announce, “I’m looking for a job.” That’s it. He didn’t also have a CV. And he by no means wrote letters or utilized for any jobs.

“How are you purported to discover a job with out placing in any effort to take action?” I’d ask him. He would simply shrug, “The universe will deliver me a chance worthy of me.” I didn’t like his angle however I couldn’t blame him a lot. His mom who was residing overseas used to ship him month-to-month stipends. So he by no means lacked something. I’m certain if he didn’t have any cash to depend on he would have been moved to desperately seek for a supply of earnings. An excessive amount of consolation by no means brings about change.

Whereas he was snug doing nothing for himself, I used to be not happy. I’ve all the time wished a financially impartial man. So I suggested him, “Nana, you’ve got an enormous following on social media. Why don’t you benefit from the platform and begin an internet enterprise?” My man simply brushed me off. The one factor he used his platform for was to realize sufficient reputation to flirt with different women. He tried to cowl his tracks however I knew. I simply didn’t thoughts him. I suppose I used to be too involved about our monetary future to fret about his flirtatious habits.

Even once I accomplished college, Nana was nonetheless unemployed. I completed my nationwide service and he nonetheless made no makes an attempt to get his act collectively. I received an ideal job proper after my nationwide service, and my man was not quickened to take a seat up. I wished us to start out constructing our future collectively however how might we try this when my man was relying on his mom for maintenance? Irrespective of how a lot I spoke to him and inspired him, he wouldn’t budge.

It received to some extent the place I couldn’t wait round for him anymore, so I ended the connection. He was devastated. “Please don’t depart me,” he begged, “I promise you that I’ll get a job.” I used to be nonetheless in love with him however I simply couldn’t put my life on maintain for him any longer, so I moved on. Not solely had been we lovers however we had been greatest buddies as effectively. So leaving him felt like slicing off part of myself. I missed him daily and it took me a number of restraint to not crawl again to him.

After him, I met somebody who was striving to attain his potential. I gave him an opportunity and we began courting. I finished calling Nana however I saved tabs on him by means of social media. I simply wished to know if he was doing alright. Nana then again texted me now and again to inspect me. However every time he received in contact, I pushed him away. I wished my new relationship to work in any respect prices, you realize.

One time I used to be on his web page once I observed that he’s within the judicial service and he has began some facet companies. I need to say, I’m very blissful for him. It occurred that someplace final yr, my relationship ended. It lasted for seven years however we by no means made it to the altar. After therapeutic, I met somebody new. Issues are going effectively however I maintain interested by Nana.

I used to be so overwhelmed with feelings one time that I gave him a name. After the decision, we began chatting on WhatsApp. I can’t appear to concentrate on my new boo, as a result of Nana has claimed all my ideas. He makes sure feedback once we chat that make me really feel he nonetheless desires me. My emotions for him are killing me softly. I want I might inform him that I nonetheless love him however I don’t know the way he’ll react. What do you recommend I do?…..CONTINUE READING