I’ve Invited My Brother’s Ex-Spouse to Christmas Dinner — My New SIL Is FURIOUS

Right here’s some background data: My brother’s ex-wife and I’ve been greatest pals earlier than the two even began dating. 3 years in the past, they first met at my household’s 4th of July cookout. A few weeks after that they began courting, which at first was a little bizarre to me seeing as although she’s my greatest buddy, and he’s my brother.

They finally obtained engaged and obtained married two years in the past via courtroom with my mother and father, her mother and father, my older sister and me being current. Sadly, the wedding didn’t final lengthy. They divorced 4 months after, and my brother ended up getting his personal residence. Proper round that point, he met his now-fiancée, whom he is set to marry subsequent yr in February.

Now attending to the upcoming Christmas dinner half. My mother and father are internet hosting Christmas dinner at their home and when I came upon my greatest buddy wasn’t spending Christmas along with her household attributable to them planning to do their very own factor this yr, I determined to invite her to my mother and father’ house with my mother and father’ permission of course. I advised my brother about it to give him a heads-up. He didn’t care or thoughts.

However when his fiancée came upon about it, she known as me, asking why did I believe it was okay to invite my brother’s ex to my household Christmas dinner. I reminded her that my brother’s ex has been my greatest buddy earlier than the two met. She really knew about this when my brother first advised her.

However she didn’t settle for that. She advised me I used to be being disrespectful inviting my brother’s ex-wife and I advised her if she has a downside with MY BEST FRIEND being there, she will be able to simply keep house. I really feel as although I shouldn’t should cease inviting my buddy to occasions simply because my soon-to-be SIL has an challenge with it.

• “My brother’s ex-wife was my buddy first earlier than he even met and dated my buddy. And since he is aware of that, that’s why he’s not even upset about what I did. He was actually on the cellphone with me final evening, telling me that when I known as him to apologize in case I did one thing improper. He advised me his ex was my buddy first anyway, so he can’t be upset at the truth that I invited her.” mermaidiamondz / Reddit
• “How would he’s not likely positive with it? Do you personally know my brother? You spoke to him? No. So don’t inform me what my brother is actually feeling until you guys speak.
  I speak to him. He admitted to not being upset with me. So don’t inform me how he feels if you don’t even know him.” mermaidiamondz / Reddit
• “My SIL and my brother usually are not even going to be round my buddy a lot. The one time they’ll all see one another apart from this upcoming Christmas dinner is on 4th of July, which is once we normally have our cookouts.” mermaidiamondz / Reddit

• “This individual was household to you earlier than she married your brother. Simply because your brother obtained concerned, doesn’t imply his fiancée now will get veto energy. I perceive she’s uncomfortable, I would be, too. However she knew the deal, she needed to know this is able to come up at some level.
  She simply assumed that her opinion would weigh extra, and it doesn’t. Your brother must make it clear to her that, ring or no ring, marriage ceremony or no marriage ceremony, she doesn’t get to determine who’s household. Particularly when everybody else is okay with it.” Natural_Garbage7674 / Reddit
• “She was round and vital earlier than she had a romance together with your brother. You checked together with your mother and father and brother first… New sis-in-law must develop up.” Worldly-Paint2687
• “Your brother determined to date and marry your greatest buddy. He knew the potential fallout could be messy. His now-fiancée doesn’t have the fitting to dictate your loved ones’s visitor record, and if you’re allowed to invite your greatest buddy to household occasions.” Cocoasneeze / Reddit

• “I assume most individuals could be uncomfortable with their companion’s ex at a household vacation. Totally different the place there are children concerned. I perceive the ex is your greatest buddy, however not a good begin to constructing a relationship with SIL. I hope your brother considers her emotions and stays away.” Dear_Parsnip_6802 / Reddit
• “There may be nothing improper with inviting a household buddy who’s been a part of your holidays for years. It could be nonsensical to banish her now due to a short-lived marriage mistake each events agreed to finish amicably.
  As a girl who has smiled via the previous 30 years of household holidays (+ graduations, child showers, class performs, cheerleading competitions, child’s birthdays, and finally grandchildren’s birthdays) with my ex-husband and the girl he cheated on me with I can say with expertise and like to your future SIL ’Recover from your self. Life occurs and rarely asks your permission.’” Sea_Spirit_55 / Reddit